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confused/frustrated
Topic Started: Jul 27 2011, 06:14 PM (1,005 Views)
XfreehueyX	Jul 27 2011, 06:14 PM Post #1
#RARE Posts: 2,995 Group: Members Member #95 Joined: May 29, 2010	So, I've been dating my girl for just over 2 years and currently we are going through a long distance relationship. Well, since June when she left, I've been getting to know this girl I work with. We share like a stupid amount in common and we talk a lot. She is cute as all hell, and really fun to be around. I'm crushing on the girl kinda hard. The shitty thing is I really love my girl, and I would never want to cheat on her. Doing that just isn't me. But at the same time, I can't get this new girl out of my head. I don't know if it is just because I'm crazy horny now that I'm not getting any, or if it because I actually like her. It's a pain in the ass, because we talk a lot, and I feel like she digs me to. I don't wanna make a move, and I'm not trying to break up with my girl to try things out with this new chick, but I'm just frustrated as all hell. I feel like my best bet is to just stop talking/hanging out because I don't wanna end up doing or trying something that ruins what I have now. But at the same time, she is an awesome friend, but in the back of my mind I wanna hook up so I know it prlly isn't a good idea. It blows, and I'm confused, and needed to vent this because I don't trust telling anyone I actually know lol.



Ziggy Fresh	Jul 27 2011, 06:21 PM Post #2
firm fiasco Posts: 7,765 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: January 28, 2010	where did your girl go and how long is she gonna remain gone?
	dmack no bitch that has ever sucked my dick has heard It Was Written in entirety


XfreehueyX	Jul 27 2011, 06:26 PM Post #3
#RARE Posts: 2,995 Group: Members Member #95 Joined: May 29, 2010	She moved back home, which is like 2 hours away. The only reason I didn't follow is because she moved back in with her parents so she could save money and start paying back her student loans. She got a temp job which last 6 months, then she said she wants to find a place. She has been wanting me to just move there now, find my own place and what not but I'm just like fuck that. I could hardly afford to live when me and her were splitting rent and what not and now she just wants me to do it all on my own while she doesn't have to pay shit at home. So, I've just been planning on waiting for her to be ready to find a place with me, cuz until then I'm not really wanting to have to take on a bunch of bills on my own.



Tman	Jul 27 2011, 06:31 PM Post #4
Serious... Bout Errthang Posts: 4,083 Group: Admin Member #10 Joined: January 28, 2010	I take it you're still pretty young and obviously you're not really sure of your current relationship if you even have to ask this question. No need to tie yourself down and give up parts of your life to someone if you're not fully committed. Sounds like you really need to take the time to figure yourself out and what you want. You can't get serious about someone if every time they're out of the picture you're easily tempted by another. It's normal human attraction, you'll always have that regardless. You have to be certain with yourself that your relationship now is stable enough to withstand time apart and that she feels the same. If neither of you are willing to make that sacrifice right now there's no reason you should rush to be tied down. Have fun, date.. live life. Just be man enough to let her know how you feel first. Yeah it may hurt her, but not as much as if you fuck around behind her back.



XfreehueyX	Jul 27 2011, 06:43 PM Post #5
#RARE Posts: 2,995 Group: Members Member #95 Joined: May 29, 2010	I'm 24, not sure how young you consider that. And it isn't that I'm not sure about my current relationship, I truly care about my girl more than anything. If I didn't I would have just been like fuck it and tried hooking up with this girl at work from the start. I understand what your saying though, but it isn't like I'm crushing on every girl I meet. This new chick is just really unique, I've never met someone quite like her. It isn't that I don't care about my girlfriend, because it is nothing like that. I love her to death. I feel like these feelings I have for the girl at work stem from me being alone at night and she has been there for me to talk to and hang out with. Your right though in the fact that I really gotta think and figure shit out. It's part of why I posted it here because I've been bottling it up, lol. And yeah, I've never even thought about cheating on her. I couldn't do that to her, she means to much. I would much rather be honest if it came down to that.



Tman	Jul 27 2011, 06:51 PM Post #6
Serious... Bout Errthang Posts: 4,083 Group: Admin Member #10 Joined: January 28, 2010	Yeah sounds like you're lonely and she's there. How often to you get to see your girl now since she moved?



XfreehueyX	Jul 27 2011, 07:01 PM Post #7
#RARE Posts: 2,995 Group: Members Member #95 Joined: May 29, 2010	Not to much, like every 2 weeks for a weekend thus far.



Riot-X	Jul 27 2011, 07:26 PM Post #8
Fuck This! Posts: 2,661 Group: Members Member #54 Joined: February 15, 2010	i'm not a supporter of relationships at all... I think they're lame. I think that people in relationships get a lot more boring. That being said, I feel like if you truly love her this wouldn't be that hard of a situation for you. Like I was dating a girl for 3 years (this is before I cam to the previously mentions position on relationship obviously) and there were these girls that I thought were cool and got a long with and was kinda feeling but overall, I loved my girl so I wouldn't have imagined doing anything. Ya know what I mean.
	All the members of this forum -except me- are date rapists.


Tman	Jul 27 2011, 07:39 PM Post #9
Serious... Bout Errthang Posts: 4,083 Group: Admin Member #10 Joined: January 28, 2010	Riot-X Jul 27 2011, 07:26 PM i'm not a supporter of relationships at all... I think they're lame. Lol this so has to be made into a break up card.



Tman	Jul 27 2011, 07:47 PM Post #10
Serious... Bout Errthang Posts: 4,083 Group: Admin Member #10 Joined: January 28, 2010	Imagine getting some from a chick that night then sliding out and leaving one of those bad boys by her.... WINNING!



Ziggy Fresh	Jul 27 2011, 08:01 PM Post #11
firm fiasco Posts: 7,765 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: January 28, 2010	Riot-X Jul 27 2011, 07:26 PM That being said, I feel like if you truly love her this wouldn't be that hard of a situation for you. jokes aside he's got a point there. there's obviously some doubt and I'm sure in the back of your mind you know what you really want. you just don't want to have to make the decision.. and i don't blame you. it's not easy.
	dmack no bitch that has ever sucked my dick has heard It Was Written in entirety


Tman	Jul 27 2011, 08:07 PM Post #12
Serious... Bout Errthang Posts: 4,083 Group: Admin Member #10 Joined: January 28, 2010	I feel him though.. hornyness, loneliness, and a beautiful woman are a motherfucker.



Riot-X	Jul 27 2011, 08:12 PM Post #13
Fuck This! Posts: 2,661 Group: Members Member #54 Joined: February 15, 2010	oh hell yeah. shit having a beautiful woman around is hard enough, add not getting any and not having your girl around and thats the temptation trifecta. But I feel if you are gonna be in a relationship than you should be prepared for this and not succumb to these things...
	All the members of this forum -except me- are date rapists.


Tman	Jul 27 2011, 08:15 PM Post #14
Serious... Bout Errthang Posts: 4,083 Group: Admin Member #10 Joined: January 28, 2010	I find it helps if you just tell your woman about all the women you wish you could sleep with... She's rooting for me in the tourney by the way.



Ziggy Fresh	Jul 27 2011, 08:17 PM Post #15
firm fiasco Posts: 7,765 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: January 28, 2010	Tman Jul 27 2011, 08:15 PM I find it helps if you just tell your woman about all the women you wish you could sleep with... She's rooting for me in the tourney by the way. lmfao.. who are you rooting for anyway? (not to fuck up the seriousness of this thread) but huey for real if it was me I'd stick it out.. if it's meant to be it is.. but right now you really have no way of being absolutely sure what's gonna work and what wont.. you don't wanna throw away 2 years of building a relationship on something that may seem nice now but grow old quick.
	dmack no bitch that has ever sucked my dick has heard It Was Written in entirety


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